Why Are You Hurt?
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“Human beings are hurt from childhood, school, college, you know, the whole business of existence. You are hurt, which means that you have an image about yourself which is hurt. Do you see that as an actuality? If you see that as an actuality, that the very essence of you is hurt, then what will you do about it? There are the past hurts, and you want to prevent future hurts. Can the past hurts be wiped away so that you can never be hurt, which doesn’t mean that you become like a stone – never to be hurt? You have never asked these questions, ask them!
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Sir, why are you hurt? You who are hurt, what is the ‘you’? The image you have about yourself, no – I am a Christian, I am a Buddhist, I am a Hindu, I am proud, I am vain, all that is you. Or you think you are God, or a superior spiritual ‘something’ inside you which is above all this – which is again a process of thought. Right? So the process of thought is hurt. And how do you prevent future hurts? Not by resistance, not by withdrawal, not by becoming more and more hard. Do you want to wipe out your hurts, or do you love your hurts?
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Do you want to keep your hurts? There is great pleasure in keeping them because that gives you vitality, energy to hurt somebody else. If you want to be free of all hurts what will you do, so that you are never under any circumstances in your relationship with the world, or with your friends, never to be hurt. Do you know what it means? To have a mind that is incapable of being hurt. Hurt – the other side is flattery. Both are the same.
So is it possible to end this being hurt? Do you want to find out?”
J. Krishnamurti
Public Discussion 1, Brockwood Park, England – 31 August 1976
Read the full transcript at jkrishnamurti.org/content/how-do-you-observe-your-fears
It was the Hari Krishna’s I remember as a little girl in NYC. Seeing them with Tambourines while being pulled away by my parents in the early 70’s. How Serendipitous to hear Krishnamurti’s message 50 years later while reading about David Bohm. After tragedy and a spiritual experience I was to come to understand that everything that I believed was a lie. This along with experiencing the Truth. That we are indeed manifestation of the Energy of Life and Unconditional Love, trusting It has changed everything. Thank you
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Is it possible to end being hurt? That question at the end of the excerpt is the more important question. To ask for a reason about being hurt does not touch the question about the possibility to end being hurt. You may have reason about this: Having a self-image as inner reason or bad experience as outer reason. If you are hurt by an activity from outside, then you have to resist. And from resistance you will experience more hurts. Leading back the hurt to a self-image, that is hurt, has the taste of a kind of withdrawal by consoling yourself.
The question to end beeing hurt is put free from an activity in relation to inner or outer circumstances, to the self-image or the conditions for experience. But doesn’t exclude to understand being hurt in relation to the movement of thought as a mediating process between experience and self-image. So it can be asked whether pain and the feeling of being hurt is the way one is conscious about this conflicting process. That is to say pain and the feeling of being hurt not to see as part of the mediating process, but as damage to a separate object, called “me”, by an external push.
I think K teatches about some psycological hurts,it is a bless,and can be won by our inner light. But there are others types of pains moral an imoral hurts surfered by us .Unfortunately there are questions which takes a long time to be solved
K., sempre como água de cachoeira em nossos corações e mentes.
The mind that thinks itself above hurt is one that is capable of the most monstrous acts of inhumanity and insensitivity because it is grossly indifferent to the hurt of others, however cleverly it might conceal that indifference with words.
Thank you for this text. I would never have understood the word “flattery” as the other side of “hurt”. I’m not even sure I agree, because flattery is such an empty and usually insincere gesture, whereas hurt goes deep into the heart. I’ll contemplate this question before I go to the full transcript. I do realize that I have hung onto hurt and made it part of my identity, and now that I am releasing that identity, I am glad also to be releasing this hurt, though it will have to be pulled out by the roots as will a few other images I have of myself.
It seems to me that we all identify, on some level, with our “hurts”. And I do believe there is a fear in letting go of them since they are so central to our idea of self.
Who would i be without all of the pain that I cling to? Scary stuff.
we are all hurt inside because most of us feel alone we are so divided sometimes even thou some of us might live together with our nice family’s most of us spend time at a 9 to 5 job with no real motivation and perspective of progress and doing good and now days a car and house and job is our perception of success so we our limited on happiness most of us dont have time to teach our own kids so we send them off to school instead of farming off the land and hunting like long before and bonding with our kids with more spiritual teachings and values now days we spend money but dont know the values of anything our what it takes to make anything or the meaning of sharing and trade or time and work vs spoiled and lazy
if you are psychologically hurt and you are aware about that, then its only your way of thinking were criticised, unaccepted or maybe brutally forced and suppressed. if one understands that psychological hurt lives in the realm of thinking then he/she must understand the structure of its own thinking, and find the right relationship with thinking and reality, because the mind who found right touch with reality and self can not be hurt.