Actually, We Have No Love
“You know, actually – and that is a terrible thing to realize – actually, we have no love.
We have sentiment; we have emotionality, sensuality, sexuality; we have remembrances of something which we have thought as love. But actually, brutally, we have no love. Because to have love means no violence, no fear, no competition, no ambition. If there is love, there is peace, because you would educate your children not to be a nationalist, not to have only a technical job and look after his own petty little affairs. You would have no nationality, there would be no divisions of religion, if you loved. But as these things actually exist – not theoretically, but brutally – in this ugly world, it shows that you have no love.
If the mother really loved her child, do you think the world would be like this?
So we have not that love. But you must have it. If you don’t have it, you cannot have virtue, you cannot be orderly, you cannot live with passion.
And there is no time. You can’t say, “Well, I can live without love because I have lived without love for two million years and I will live another two million years without love” – that means perpetual sorrow for the next two million years.
So what will you do? If you say please tell me what to do, then you are missing the bus entirely.
But if you saw the importance, the immensity, the urgency of that question – not tomorrow not the next day or the next hour, but see it now while you are sitting. Admittance of time is the greatest sorrow. As sorrow and love cannot be resolved, or love cannot exist through time, what is the state of your mind that has put this question?
If you put that question with that alacrity, with that urgency, with that potency, then what takes place in the mind? Because it will not allow time to come and interfere. Therefore such a mind has an infinite space both in the mind and in the heart; and so that mind is in a state of love; and in that sense of beauty, in that sense of vast, infinite space, there is creation.”
J. Krishnamurti
Varanasi, 5th Public Talk
28th November 1964
So true, and so well said. To see something, any aspect of our life, so clearly, with such clarity, is the only way to start. That clarity is the beginning, the new. Any other movement is just a movement of, and in, the same muddled, old, conditioned, contradictory patterns and thinking, As Krishnamurti says, ‘the admittance of time is the greatest sorrow’. Such a beautifully powerful and relevant video. Thank you for posting.
Possible answers:
1. No. All is illusion. Illusion of love or lack of love.
2. No. There is deep sense of love manifesting itself as the instinct of preserving the life, basically of own spieces. Parents do love their children, even children of not their spieces. You can see many examples of it at YT. Your dog really loves you if you are not hostile to him.
Hi,
What make the instinct of preserving life, being a manifestation of love?
And so, what make people want to preserve things, idea, etc…?
Sincerely
J.
Just beautiful. Namaste ???
Krishnamurti asserts : “Admittance of time is the greatest sorrow. As sorrow and love cannot be resolved, or love cannot exist through time, what is the state of your mind that has put this question?”
This statement is too terse to understand. Can anyone explain it to make it more accessible!
At the end of this talk K spoke: “and so that mind is in ‘that’ state of love…”, not in ‘a’ state of love…
So pleased and appreciative of the wisdom you transmite in all your Messages.
Many thanks indeed.
Excellent video and K was a genius of our time, I hope we do not all loose his message.
Trank you gor this Great Video!
Con todo respeto: ¡ Como me rompe la cabeza K !.Leí por los setenta Tradición y Revolución,en momentos sociales muy delicados en mi país.
Siempre presente ,siempre vigente.
Gracias
Makes me wish I didn’t exist!
Feel like throwing a kitten onto a wood chipper!
Why not. I have no love anyway.
What’s the point?
I hate life.
…because,we are here to build it
We are love, created in love to serve creation in love. We are so lost in physicality and know that the word love is distorted and its true meaning is lost. It is in the heart which leads to your soul, the meaning and gifts of love are everywhere once a person starts to search. Search, it is within you, it is you, drop the thoughts/beliefs and listen to your heart.
It is difficult to explain and many times there are no words, but will use my heart filled with love as the guide. Even to ask myself the question leads to the filling of euphoria. Love is like a tall tree when it unfolds branching out to reach the heavens. It starts of a wanting to know (seed), gets nourishment from existence (meditation) sets in roots (internal growth) pushes past any barrier (thoughts, perceptions/beliefs) and blossoms (spreads its seed) to all areas of one’s life. The word love is a label here on earth but it is so much more.
Love has no ending and is equal in intensity for all life, including oneself (God within). Love my sister, my partner, self (Source within), you, birds, bugs, neighbours, no matter the category or separation we put on life, all life feels like one love, no matter our judgement. Love all life on this planet and off the planet. Love brings in and holds all into one. Even those we at one time considered as separate, no good, evil, etc. these barriers break down and one sees through the presence of the Infinite (God). You love without question or do not expect anything in return.
Love is all life and one starts to see the perfection of all life like All That Is/Source/God, because it is. It is the allowance of all life to do what they believe is right for their growth without interference on our side, not to judge or interfere, to love so deeply just like all members of the Alliance. Love within self is the glory of the omnipresent, all powerful force with many names like Source which saturates completely. This all powerful force exists in all things, including us and all life, it is our greatest gift to experience this oneness of All That Is. To love one is the love all, it is impossible to separate love for it is all life and all contains Source.
Love is the absence of all the darkness or polarities in life. One realizes they exist but love uplifts one past these in the presence of Source. Love is a state of being, a way of life, it is not a feeling.
excellent
Cette vision d’attitude dans notre appréhension ou perception de notre réalité comme humain mérite d’être partagée car sa simple formulation est porteuse d’une trajectoire qui rejoint le sacre…et l’espoir
he leaves no place to hide ,direct .hits you like a snowball in your face .I read and read again
Frequently we confuse Love with pleasure altough both them are parts of our life,lets allow love steer our living. I think that is the essence of K. teaching in this exert.
It really picks my brain. It makes me aware of the illusions of life and love so that I don’t become complacent on my thinking. We cannot stop inquiring about all this. It really makes perfect sense if you meditate on it. Thank you so very much Mr. Krishnamurti!
We are all descendents of the fallen tower of babble, we still talk in different toungues… make a friend, help somebodies?
We don’t have it! We are love! The more we claim it, the more it is true! Whatever we Choose to claim or give our attention to is what becomes more true for us. I think if we ask the right questions, we will get closer to finding it was inside all along.
Tryng to educate your children not to be a nationalist, while everyone else is educating theirs to be one? Teaching your children not to compete while everyone else is doing the opposite? Sure, you can certainly try to give the good example (if you can in this mad world), but what makes you think your children are going to listen to anything you say or do. There is so much around them to influence them including the accursed internet to do all the wrong things. How will there be any peace trying to do this, I don’t understand. There will be violence and unending sorrow from beginning to end to try to do this.
K spoke with passion and has never contradicted himself. He really was beyond the known. He felt so responsible for the future of our world that he spent much of his life telling us in different ways to observe ourselves. We are like the fish that doesn’t know it is surrounded by water. Our lack of intelligence is reflected in our cruel society. But he saw hope in humankind as it is evident in this clip. K was full of love and he saw all of us with love.
ONLY LOVE IS AND I AM THAT
The words of K are so profound and very awakening if we are honest with ourselves. The words prod and poke you to awaken to the fact that you actually don’t know what love is. Most of us have our conclusion to what love is. So most people will dismiss K’s words altogether or continue to hold on to the conclusion that we know what love is. The brain has memorized and memorialized the thoughts and feelings of a previous experience which we have formed and concluded as love. The self is the recipient or the entity of this memorization or memorializing. It is impossible for self or those heavily restrained in the idea of self to love. For the self is the origin violence, fear, competition and ambition there is no other entity. The other meaning love cannot co-exist.
It is true a very few peple knwos what love means. I do my best to live it but the world is so ugly and somtimes instead of helping peple I fear to be hurting- them
I am asking myself the question, ‘Do I feel Love’? I first of all I realize that anything or anyone that is excluded from love diminishes and fragments. “I love this but not like that”. When I say “I love you”, isn’t that also a separation into the “I” and anything or anyone else? So is it then possible that there is just the state of love without an I or an object? What then might bring me to this state of love that has no center or a single exclusive object?
For me, it is to let go of blame and judgement. Everything then become just what it is rather than something separate that I like or dislike. Couple this with a heart that is open, available, and love begins to bleed through and produces this all inclusive state. I find this process easiest, when I start with nature, children or animals. When I am aware of the natural and innocent world and this mind has no room for thoughts of possession or judgement, then I begin to feel this feeling of love expanding to include everything. To me, on reflection, it feels like a state of being that is all inclusive with no “me” observing and nothing excluded, a filling of my heart with wonder, beauty, inclusion, joy and in a word “love”.
That’s why parents jump in front of their kids to save them! We have a right to choose whether we want to feel this way or not and that’s how you get different opinions on love. Those who think they’re alone are truly alone.
It is enough to understand that I do not know what love is.That is true.I talk about it but do not really know…
To be aware of this is the beginning.
There is no love if it’s from a Thought. Just like there is no God when we think about it. God is a concept. Love is conditional.
But when we act lovingly without motive , there is love and we are God
K did point out in the beginning: there is sentiment, emotion, sensuality, sexuality and nostalgia. I believe the love K described transcends this 3-dimensional , binary physical world. There is no subject, acts nor object. There is no love as positive nor lack of love as negative. Nor is there actuality nor illusion. Your dog’s love is conditional, like you said, IF, tic for tac. Like most relational “love”. K’s love is Truth,beauty and goodness, instant, unchanging , non-conditional, timeless and spaceless. Survival love, instinctual love is changing, temporal and varies. That’s why we see some females killed their babies and lioness chased their offspring out after 2 years. It’s utility for preserving species, but not LOVE.
Love is one-way, unconstitutional sacrifice, without any expectation. To live always for the wellbeing of the loved one is love, without any return. Whatever we expect from others, we should also do the same with others. Even in order to become a successful selfish, we need always to think & do good for the others for their peaceful existence & growth, but without any expectation behind. But, above all, if we fully love & respect the creator ( who is verily present in his / her each & every creation ), we started loving every creations ( you are for the lord and not for others. You are for the lord and so for others ), thereby become fearless ( as there is no enemy ).
Real true love really happened in the good old days when most women were the very complete opposite of today back then, and they were real ladies as well which is why it was very easy finding love at that time. Unfortunately most women today are just so very pathetic altogether, with no manners and personality at all either. Today many of us men will get Cursed out for no reason at all when we will just try to start a conversation with a woman that we would really like too meet, and i know other friends that had this happened to them as well unfortunately. Very severely mentally disturbed women everywhere today making love very difficult to find now for many of us single good men really looking. What in the world happened to these women today? Feminism, most likely.